What did you think you were going to accomplish when you leaned out of the car window and screamed at me "You're fat!" Did you think I was going to collapse into a puddle of tears? Did you think I would get angry? Did you think the weight would just melt off of me if you brought it out into the open? Do you REALLY think I don't know how much I weigh? I have mirrors in my house and I DO use them. You were telling me nothing more than what I say to myself each day. So, honestly, you accomplished nothing other than showing how ignorant and disrespectful you are.
I don't know why people say such hateful things. Without knowing a thing about the other person, they become judge and jury and find the target 'fat.' For anyone thinking to judge an overweight person, think about this:
- You have no idea if the person has health issues that contribute to weight gain.
- You have no idea if the person is taking medications that cause weight gain.
- You have no idea if the person has a metabolic condition that makes it difficult to lose weight or keep it off.
- You have no idea if the person is physically unable to do exercise.
- You have no idea if the person is celebrating because s/he just reached the goal of losing 50 pounds.
A lot of overweight people have self-esteem problems or depression and eat as a 'solution' to the way they are feeling. Congratulations young woman, you just may cause someone to go on a very long, very destructive eating binge by your actions. Thankfully, your words did not affect me in that way.
While I am overweight--by quite a lot--I don't know if I eat all that much more than you do. Because of your age, I would think that I may even eat healthier than you--I just turn every bit of what I eat into fat. There obviously is more going on with me than just overeating, but I haven't figured it out yet. I certainly hope that you don't find yourself in my predicament 30+ years from now, because it isn't a fun place to be.
I'm sure your words had some affect on me, or I wouldn't be writing this. I won't dwell on this incident and one way for me to 'put it behind me' is to write this out. I know you will never see this, but I hope one day that someone can explain how wrong your actions were--and I hope you find out sooner rather than later. I feel sorry for you because it seems as if you don't know any better. You will have a difficult life if you don't learn.
Thank you for your time,