Sunday, May 20, 2012


Dear anonymous young woman (I would call you a young lady, but you showed no indication that you know what a 'lady' is)--

What did you think you were going to accomplish when you leaned out of the car window and screamed at me "You're fat!"  Did you think I was going to collapse into a puddle of tears?  Did you think I would get angry?  Did you think the weight would just melt off of me if you brought it out into the open?  Do you REALLY think I don't know how much I weigh?  I have mirrors in my house and I DO use them.  You were telling me nothing more than what I say to myself each day.  So, honestly, you accomplished nothing other than showing how ignorant and disrespectful you are.

I don't know why people say such hateful things.  Without knowing a thing about the other person, they become judge and jury and find the target 'fat.'  For anyone thinking to judge an overweight person, think about this:

  • You have no idea if the person has health issues that contribute to weight gain.
  • You have no idea if the person is taking medications that cause weight gain.
  • You have no idea if the person has a metabolic condition that makes it difficult to lose weight or keep it off.
  • You have no idea if the person is physically unable to do exercise.
  • You have no idea if the person is celebrating because s/he just reached the goal of losing 50 pounds.
A lot of overweight people have self-esteem problems or depression and eat as a 'solution' to the way they are feeling.  Congratulations young woman, you just may cause someone to go on a very long, very destructive eating binge by your actions.  Thankfully, your words did not affect me in that way.

While I am overweight--by quite a lot--I don't know if I eat all that much more than you do.  Because of your age, I would think that I may even eat healthier than you--I just turn every bit of what I eat into fat.  There obviously is more going on with me than just overeating, but I haven't figured it out yet.  I certainly hope that you don't find yourself in my predicament 30+ years from now, because it isn't a fun place to be.

I'm sure your words had some affect on me, or I wouldn't be writing this.  I won't dwell on this incident and one way for me to 'put it behind me' is to write this out.  I know you will never see this, but I hope one day that someone can explain how wrong your actions were--and I hope you find out sooner rather than later.  I feel sorry for you because it seems as if you don't know any better.  You will have a difficult life if you don't learn.

Thank you for your time,


Anonymous said...

You are kidding!!!??? I would have, if possible, slapped that bitch to Neptune.

cmk said...

I REALLY would like to know what the purpose of this was. It just doesn't seem to make sense, unless she was showing off for her friends, but still. She got no reaction from me--and even if I HAD reacted, she wouldn't have known because they passed by so quickly. This is why I'm sure it was the actions of a mean person.

Of course, my first reaction is the same as you: "slap that bitch to Neptune." However, I think that the non-reaction probably is best--they have no idea how to react to silence.

meleah rebeccah said...

Um.... are you serious? I would have hauled off and punched that little shitbag in the face.

cmk said...

I'm not sure I WOULDN'T have slugged her if she had been close. Thankfully, she was in a car and completely out of range of my fist. ;)

While this didn't send me in a tailspin, I just can't help thinking how another person with a more fragile psyche might have reacted. It's too bad things like this go on.