Wednesday, July 08, 2009

And I Get Shut Out Again

I posted how our goddaughter got confirmed without us being informed and last week we were shut out again.

The high school where K and I graduated from has an all-school reunion every year around the fourth of July holiday. While we have never attended, we DID go to our class reunions when they were held. I was never close to members of my class--I keep in touch with the two I care about: my husband and my oldest friend--but I have never said I won't attend reunions. However, this year I probably would have gone to the all-school reunion for one reason: it was the 100 year anniversary of the school. And I didn't know a thing about it until the festivities were all over with. I'm sure if we would have known ahead of time, we would have attended. And our Wisconsin friends probably would have come, also--she is the other member of our class that I actually like. ;) But, we didn't have the opportunity to decide whether or not we would be there, cause no one told us about it.

The high school anniversary is one thing--I could really take it or leave it. The other anniversary I knew nothing about is the one that really hurts. I know I have mentioned this before, but my great-grandfather was a lay preacher. He and my great-grandmother had a very great faith and were instrumental in establishing a church in the town they lived. K and I were married in that church. And the festivities for the 100 year anniversary of the church were also held last week. And I wasn't told a thing about it. THAT hurts.

I spoke with The Mother earlier this week--after all of the celebrations were done--and she mentioned them. I can't believe she was so matter-of-fact about the whole thing. She is so passively-aggressive in the way she 'punishes' me for all the 'wrongs' I have done. I wish I knew a way of handling this, but I guess my best bet is to stay far, far away from her. Still.

9 comments:

Ranger Tom said...

I really know how you feel... Me being so far away down here in Florida, I get forgotten all the time when something happens. A year ago I was informed a favorite aunt of mine had passed... Three months prior.

I do feel for you and really understand.

cmk said...

Not that it is any excuse, of course, but if I was as far away from 'home' as you, I might be able to understand. However, WE live 100 miles away and STILL are excluded from everything. As I said, this is just The Mother's passive-aggressiveness going on--my punishment.

Thanks for understanding--not EVERYONE would, that's for sure. I don't think The Hubby really does.

kristi noser said...

We have the opposite going on in our fam--we invite my sister to all kinds of things and she always says no. Why can't people just get along?

Ranger Tom said...

Like I always say, you can pick your friends but not your family.

cmk said...

kristi: Yes, why can't people get along. BUT, for me to get along with my family, I would have to completely lose myself and be exactly the way they want, thinking exactly the way they want, and never, ever expect an apology for the way I have been treated. NOT going to happen.

RT: Got that right. ;)

leazwell said...

Our family has been split for three decades - unless people get there hearts fixed there will never be peace in the family, yours or mine.

cmk said...

leazwell: And if there isn't a true spirit of accepting blame for things we have done, along with a true spirit of forgiveness OR respect for others, things will never change, either. It is sad.

meleah rebeccah said...

Oh honey. This sucks. Im sorry your family is like that. It makes me sad.

cmk said...

I think I'm over the sadness. It is what it is and will never change.