The other night I posted about the youngest having problems getting pregnant. I didn't go into any further explanation because I thought someone from my town had 'found' this blog and didn't want all of A's business 'out there' when it comes to people we know. I now realize that I was tracking my own 'visits' to this site--some tech geek I turned out to be! I had to reset my router for my wireless network the other day--so that I could get on the net with the Wii--and I didn't realize that it changed my IP address and that I needed to tell Sitemeter to ignore my 'visits.' DUH!! So, with that settled, I will add some more to what is going on.
A and her husband have been working with a fertility specialist for a while now. She was diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS). Among other problems with this, infertility is just about a given--or, at the very least, difficulty in getting pregnant. The doctor has been testing her to the best of his abilities and treating her as well as can be. (She can't go through certain tests--those using dyes--because she has a shellfish allergy/sensitivity and the dyes contain iodine.) Between ultrasounds, medications, 'turkey basters,' etc, she has been trying to get pregnant. The last go showed that her eggs were not being very cooperative and maturing as they should. They had another consultation with the doctor on Monday and he gave them two options. One is a try with another medication, which will result in an 18% chance of success and the other is IVF (in vitro fertilization) which would be about a 56% chance of success. Of course, the IVF is 5 times the cost, and insurance--I believe--will not cover it. They will try for the 18% and hope for the best.
I still haven't talked with her--I'm giving her the time she needs. When she feels up to it, she will call, but I don't have words of wisdom for her. As far as I see it, the doctor came just short of saying that, in all probability, she will not get pregnant without extensive, costly, medical measures. This is something that she did not need to hear. And, of course, her sister cannot understand any of this--after all, I sometimes think C can get pregnant just by talking on the phone with her husband! To top it all off, A is far from family and her closest friends, so she doesn't even have many people for her to talk to--if she feels like talking at all. I've just been in a bit of a funk over all of this and am trying very hard to not dwell--and it is taking some effort.
So, this is where I am at right now--just keeping on keeping on. Thanks for letting me share!
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I think this may be one of the best descriptions of love/marriage I have ever seen. Funny, but true! :D
Doctor's don't know everything..
ReplyDeleteBut I know someone who does, and I'll be asking for His hand upon her...
Thank you--and, of course, we know He always helps. In whatever way is in His plan, that is.
ReplyDeleteI have repeatedly tried to reset my sitemeter to not show my own visits to my blog but it never works. I don't know what I am doing wrong.
ReplyDeleteMy heart goes out to your daughter. I hope it all works out for her. I have a feeling it will.
cindi: I think things will work out for the best--WHATEVER they are. She just may be the one who has to adopt a certain child--we never know what He has in mind for us.
ReplyDeleteAS for the SiteMeter, once you sign on, go to the top of the page and click on 'Manager.' Click on the link that says 'ignore' your own visits. THEN, go to the bottom where it says 'ignore visits by IP address.' On the next page, click on the button at the bottom that says 'Ignore my current IP Address.' THAT should keep your visits from showing up in your statistics. (I have done this whole thing before, but not often enough. THAT is why it took me a while to figure things out. I wish my brain remembered as well as it used to, so many years ago! :D)
I'm hoping for the best, too!!!
ReplyDeleteThanks Ann(ie)!
ReplyDeleteRe. sitemeter...previously I have done exactly what you said. I have done it numerous times but it never "takes". So I gave up.
ReplyDeletecindi: I know exactly what you mean--been there, done that. :)
ReplyDeleteyou know, i hear stories like this all the time -- "we thought it would never happen, because the doctors said we couldn't!" -- and WHAMMO- next thing you know, they've got 3 of those little suckers. :)
ReplyDeleteif it's meant to be.......and yes, doctors don't always know. surprise babies happen all the time!
have they thought about adoption? that's what i'm going to do if i can't have babies. there's a lot of kids out there who just want to part of a family. ANY family. (plus, if you get a slightly older kid, you get to skip all the diapers/potty training part!)
maybe it's too early to bring up that as an option. sorry if i offend. i've never tried to get pregnant, so i guess it's one thing for ME to say "adopt!" when i'm not emotionally involved.
i hope things will happen for them. i bet she'd be a good mom!!!